I went to a dinner party recently, half of the table had babies and children at various ages, 6 months, 1 year, 5 years, 7 and 9 years and half of the table had businesses of their own, brand new businesses, 2 year old businesses, 5 year old businesses, you can see where this is going can’t you…
Yes while we were discussing the trials and tribulations of both it struck me how similar the experience of starting your own business is to having a baby and how having a baby is similar to starting your own business…
You start off with grand ideals of how it is going to be with all those opinions on how best to handle every situation of an experience you have not had. You don’t or won’t listen to anyone about how difficult the process is, it is something you must experience for yourself!
With your mind made up, you find the first few months joyful, memorable, exciting, overwhelming, difficult, and isolating.
And just when you get a routine sorted, a good night’s sleep, a brand new client and things are going well, though you may be too scared to admit it – then some spanner gets thrown in the works, a tooth, a cancellation, a cold, a no-show.
I have raised two babies and cuddled and handed back many more… the undisputed formula to happy times in babyhood is taking the time to get to know your baby through routine and structure, spending time alone together and seeking help when you need it. It means working out the signs, following the signs and surrendering to the signs – balancing what is best for them without obsessing or becoming isolated and keeping your sense of humour.
so you get to know your baby, understand your baby and become your baby’s expert.
New mothers listen to the mothers with older children, taking in every word, yes it gets easier, the difficulties change – but the experience is one you wouldn’t change and is truly wonderful as you intimately get to know (and influence) another human being.
I started my own business earlier this year, so it is still in its infancy, and I am looking to those who have mature businesses with awe, taking in every word, yes it gets easier, the difficulties change – but the experience makes you YOU, you are your own master answering to no-one else and is truly wonderful as you intimately get to know (and influence) yourself.
Again, it appears, the formula to happy times in business infancy is taking the time to get to know and understand your business through routine, structure, trials and tribulations, spending time together alone and seeking help when you need it. It means following the signs, achieving balance by not becoming obsessive or isolated and keeping your sense of humour.
So for all those of you who have had a baby and are starting your own business now or in the future, for all those who have started their own business and are considering babies now or in the future, and for all those crazy enough to do both together – draw on the expertise/the experience you have had in one of these areas to help you through the early times of the other.
Do so in the knowledge that loving and understanding your business/baby is key and that it does get better – that is why so many people do it, you are not alone and at the very least you can happily contribute to a dinner party conversation and smugly share your experiences…