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Handy hints for healthy thoughts

Pressure may be building and times may be testing, but here a some quick tips to help you keep a healthy head:

*       think first, act second

*       avoid “all or nothing” thinking

*       avoid overgeneralizing: “all”, “always”

*       avoid labeling or being judgmental

*       avoid filtering i.e hear the words not the perception

*       focus on the positives

*       avoid jumping to conclusions

*       focus on the present event, leave the past in the past

*       forget about the “shoulds”

*       do not self-blame for things that you have no control over

 

Living consciously astrologically

Yasmin Boland Astrologies “living consciously”

As I sat waiting for coffee yesterday morning in my favourite caff, I read the Astro section in the Body and Soul section of the newspaper.  There I found a little gem where Yasmin Boland spoke of living consciously in the current energy climate, here is what she had to say…

“People often ask what it means to ‘live consciously’, well this week it would mean facing up to issues that arise, figuring out how often these buttons are pushed and looking for the wisest long-term solution.  Facing facts is part of the solution, so is acting maturely.”

 

Guest Feature on The Sprout

Well I am honoured this morning to be featured on ‘The Sprout’ – bringing fun into all things health and wellness.

The Sprout inspires you to feed your mind and body, built on the idea
that any seed we plant has the potential to grow into something
beautiful…

Gemma from the Sprout wanted to know what it means to live consciously…

Guest Post: Fiona Ferreira is Living Consciously

Conscious Living

My name is Fiona, I am a healer and proud business owner of Left of Centre Therapies, specialising in Reiki/hands on healing and Meditation practices AND I have a blog dedicated to ‘conscious living’.   Conscious living is… well its living consciously of course :)– but in all seriousness…

Let me start with some background…

As I think you would all agree, human nature is constantly evolving, there is so much change from one generation to the next.  History has shown us that human culture and knowledge are also continuously progressing and I believe that goes for human awakening too.  Together we are going somewhere, with each generation building on the accomplisments of the one before.

In our own way, each of us contributes to this evolution, starting young with a determination not to behave the same way that our parents did.  From watching and interacting with them, we discerned what we liked and did not like about their behaviour and vowed it would be different for us.  How smart we were as kids!

This may be where some of us leave it, we lose those conscious thoughts as we ‘grow up’ and revert to behaviour patterns learned from our parents, with little regard to our childhood insight.  We mirror their lives and their mistakes.  Others vow not to be like their mother or father and do everything in their power to be the exact opposite.  If we are lucky at some point we hear ourselves saying – oohhhh I sound just like my mother… or we realise that all that energy spent on being the exact opposite may not have brought us to a better place either.

Don’t tell your parents, but reaching this point is actually a good thing – as using these as cues we start to question, who are we and why we are behaving the way we do?  Why are we not living the life we thought we would as children and why are we constantly mending bridges (particularly with our parents) as we go?  As we work through these questions we become more and more conscious of what is really going on in our lives, what is causing our difficulties, we start to become self aware, we begin to live consciously.

Living consciously is being conscious of how and why we behave the way we do, it is the practice of self awareness. We learn to take responsibility for our actions and our lives, we resort to automatic behaviour less and less and are conscious of our behaviour more and more, we use our parents as examples and seek alternative perspectives and ways to behave, we become open to alternative solutions to our problems, we take conscious action against being limited by negative thoughts and we become aware of and find the lesson in every difficulty we face. We heal and we evolve.

Simple Magic

I have not read anything this beautiful in a long time

“Why did they believe? Because they saw miracles. Things one man took as chance, a man of faith took as a sign. A loved one recovering from disease, a fortunate business deal, a chance meeting with a long lost friend. It wasn’t the grand doctrines or the sweeping ideals that seemed to make believers out of men. It was the simple magic in the world around them.” ….

Brandon Sanderson, from The Hero of Ages

Failure, the other F word

FailureIt’s a Friday night, its been a hellova week, no month, no year – you have put excessive time and effort, not just physical but mental and emotional time and effort, into working on something that you want, think, believe will bring you the success that you want, think believe you need –  crunch time has arrived and you realise that you have F*&#%ing Failed.

After a deep breath you start the process of try telling yourself that “if you learn from defeat, then you have’t really lost” or that “everything happens for a reason”, but when you realise that you are not going to get that end result that you have manifested, dreamed of and obsessed over, there is the first F word with a shorter word to follow.

And this is because dealing with failure is not only one of the most necessary but also one of the hardest lessons that we as human beings, will ever have to learn…

And that is why failure is generally followed by the inevitable tantrum…

where you pick apart your failure with even more obsessive gusto than whatever it was that you were working on in the first place and then you start attacking your life too, you know its not just that thing that failed, it is everything else too – my relationships are not how I want them to be, my job is not how I want it to be, I never have enough money and I even can’t stand the people I do extreme ironing with (google it) …

WHEN IS IT MY TURN??

Maybe this is coupled with floods of tears and results in a few broken things around the house or a few broken things in your body, headaches, shoulder tension, neck aches…  Because when you are in it, experiencing it, living it, none of the 500 quotes on failure on the Goodreads website are going to inspire you to think – alright then I think that this failure is a gift and I’m all good to go now… they may help, but failure, in most cases, takes time to get over.

To explain why, lets look at what failure means as per the trusty free dictionary online…

fail·ure n.

1. The condition or fact of not achieving the desired end or ends.

2. One that fails.

3. The condition or fact of being insufficient or falling short… and so on

The common denominator in all definitions is “EXPECTATION”.  In each case the falling short, the not achieving, the non performance all relates to not reaching an expected outcome.   And we all know what happens when we don’t meet expectations (ours or others), hey presto – it means that we are not good enough and as the guru of positive thinking, Louise Hay famously preaches – the fear of not being good enough is the fear that underpins all fears. 

SO GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK if you threw that tantrum that you weren’t real proud of after experiencing a set back, apologise to anyone that may have experienced passing wind from some flying glass, apologise to yourself if you were the brunt of the negative banter and remember you are only human – and (for yet another quote):

It is not how you fall that matters, it is how you rise again…

But as we have identified that expectation is the common denominator of failure, what if we changed our perspective slightly on the expectation set in the first place, would this mean that next time we wouldn’t have to rise up again from such a low base?   Would changing or even losing the expectation of the end result lead to a little less pain associated with failure?

I THINK SO…

I see it like sitting a school exam.  Getting a good grade in an exam generally means that you can get your parents off your back and you can feel good about yourself because an A in science means that you are bright and have a bright future, there is nothing to worry about here.  The point that you have learnt something really interesting about the anatomy of the cockroach, doesn’t really get more than a passing thought.  But if you were more interested in the actual learning or (perhaps if it is a boring subject) why you are learning the subject and not so focussed on the grade you will receive at the end, then you will have increased your knowledge, NOT YOUR EGO.

Or perhaps you have started your own business and you decide to put on an event with the intention to get exposure, to show people what you do, convince people you are worth following.  This takes a lot of planning, time and effort and don’t get me wrong exposure is a good marketing tool, BUT if you decide to put yourself out there so you can nurture your creative side, allow your passion and imagination to shine, as well as firming up your skills and knowledge on the subject you are presenting then whatever happens with regards to attendees, followers, stalkers, exposure etc is A BONUS.

It is well worth a try next time you embark on something where you could very easily face both F words, by following the approach: Lose the expectation, enjoy and learn from the journey and whatever positive outcomes result from the action are purely a bonus.  Whether it be end of year exams, going for that new job or the next blog post you write, work with the “what am I learning from this exercise”, I guarantee it will be 100 times more rewarding than “what will I get from this exercise”.

And finally not only do you learn that it is about the experience and not the outcome, but from failure you also learn:

  • to be humble
  • to be compassionate
  • to be vulnerable
  • your limits
  • your capabilities
  • courage
  • your strengths
  • your weaknesses
  • what interests or inspires you and what doesn’t
  • to be flexible
  • to be open minded and
  • you learn more about who you are…

 

9 August 2013 – Smudging the Unsavouries

In line with this week’s theme of exploring energy healing techniques, below is a brief description of Smudging, a tool used to remove unsavoury energies.Smoke

Smudging or the burning of herbs, is a traditional, native American Indian practice which was used for the purification of sacred spaces prior to spiritual ceremonies.  Each tribe would have one or more healers or spirit communicators who would perform the smudging ritual to drive out any evil spirits and to keep Gan’n (negative entities) away from areas where ceremonies were held.  The smoke produced from the burning of the herbs attaches itself to negative energy and as it clears it takes the negative energy with it.

The most common herb burned in the smudging practice was White Sage (also known as Sacred Sage).  Considered to be a herb of wisdom and longevity, the leaves of white sage were also widely used as a cleansing herb to purify the mind and body and were carried in charm bags to ensure personal and spiritual safety.

Today, the burning of this magic little herb is widely used to remove negative energies from places, people or objects.  People smudge their homes or work spaces to get rid of any tenacious nasties, or cleanse crystals, their black cats or grumpy significant others of any lingering, negativity.  Healers burn white sage to cleanse their healing rooms prior to and where needed in session to rid the client of any negative energy that they have picked up from other people and I can contest that this is amazingly effective.

Making and burning your own Smudge sticks

Smudge Stick

You can easily buy smudge sticks, but its much more fun to make your own.  And its simple to do, you can use:

  • Scissors
  • Cotton string
  • Plants such as sage, rosemary, lavendar

Cut off pieces of the plants in lengths about 15cm long.  Cut a length of string about 1.5m long. Put several branches together so that the cut ends are together and the leafy ends are together. Leaving about 5cm of loose string at the bottom, wind it tightly around the stem of the bundle.

Then wind the string up the bundle in a circular pattern until you reach the top.  Feed the string back down to the stems creating a criss-cross pattern and capturing all of the stray leaves.  The string should be wound firmly so that nothing gets loose, but not so tight that it cuts off pieces of the plants.

When you get back to the stems, tie the remainder of the string to the loose piece you left at the beginning to complete your bundle.  Trim off any excess leafy pieces so that the ends of your smudge stick are even.

Hang up the smudge stick for drying. Depending on what type of herb you used, and how humid your weather is, it may take a couple of days to a couple of weeks to totally dry out. When your sticks are dry, you can burn them in ritual for smudging by lighting the leafy end.

How to use your smudge stick

Light a candle and hold the leafy end of the stick over the flame until it is alight.  Take the smoking stick around a room or over a person with the intent to remove any negativity.   If you are clearing a room you may take a little longer in the corners as this can be where energy accumulates.

A feather can be used to help dissipate the smoke, in which case the smoking smudge stick should Featherbe placed in a bowl and the smoke swept in the appropriate direction accordingly.

HAPPY SMOKING